Post 2 – is it okay to check his phone?

Okay, so I want to keep this blog thing going but it’s really hard. Really, I have a full schedule, and every 20 minutes I don’t have to be in class, or at my internship – I want to spend them watching Gossip girl, Melrose place, Dancing with the stars, or any other TV show that I love (which are many.) I haven’t posted in a week, and I remind myself everyday tat I need to do this, but always forget. I actually really enjoy writing.

Anyways, I just got of the phone with my friend Debora, and she did something I don’t know if I would do, or if it’s ok to do. She went through his phone. When he went to take a shower, she took his phone and read all his messages. My friend is not a psycho, ad by psycho I mean that obsessive and compulsive girlfriend who is super jealous and obnoxious. No – my friend is the most relaxed and open-minded girl that I know.

Here is the situation, both of us met him at her work’s event, and we became friends. I feel bad because I kind of pushed her to like him because I thought he was a nice guy, and I thought I saw something, like a spark, between them. So, he took her out on her birthday, and they kissed, and walked along the Charles, and had what I assume must have been a very romantic evening. They’ve been together for about two months, but have never had the “talk” about being boyfriend and girlfriend. I must say, I am not American, and neither is my friend – but he is. In my country, and of my knowledge, if you are together for 2 months, going to each other’s houses, meeting and knowing each others friends, sleeping over, cooking for each other, and taking the other to the hospital – that makes it a boyfriend and girlfriend thing to me. Apparently in the American world, it does not. There is such a thing as a hook up, or a one-night stand. Then there is the Booty call – when you call a person over strictly for sex. Then there is dating, which seems to mean that they are together, but they are not exclusive. Finally there is being a boyfriend and girlfriend – and then you are together, and only together. Apparently, they were just dating – however, in the past couple of weeks, they have been together more than ever. I haven’t seen her much, which makes me thing the relationship had developed a little bit, and he actually had told her that he really, really likes her.

So, she called me earlier today and told me she had gone through his phone. My first reaction was a mixture of ‘Oh no, why and you shouldn’t have done that’ – until, she told me what she found. Apparently he had kissed a girl at a bar, and met Debora just one hour later. He also spent the night with Debora, and texted this girl in the morning and through out the day – while he was with Debora. Here is the thing, this guy is leaving in about 2 months from Boston, because of work, he and my friend have been together for 2 months. I am actually glad she looked through his phone, and has realized what kind of guy he is. She has started to like him a lot, and although he claims the same thing, now I think he is just an ass. It’s better she really knows what kind of guy he is dealing with. If she had found nothing, I would have told her she is psycho and she shouldn’t have done it. I think it was intuition, because this is not the type of thing, she would do. Is it okay that I think it’s okay to look through someone’s phone if you find something?